Invisible. Until Needed.

There’s a particular kind of heaviness that settles in when you realize you're only visible to people when they want something.

When they’re in crisis.
When they need a favor.
When they want your energy, your support, your time.
But when it’s your turn to need?
Silence. Ghosted. Ignored. Forgotten.

It’s exhausting. And more than that—it hurts. Deeply.

Lately, I’ve been sitting with this feeling that maybe I’m just background noise in people’s lives. The one they remember when it’s convenient. The one they text when they need to unload, vent, or fix something. But not the one they check in on. Not the one they invite. Not the one they value unless there's something in it for them.

It’s hard not to internalize that. It’s hard not to start asking:
What’s wrong with me?
Why do I even try?
Do I matter beyond my usefulness?
And if I’m being honest, sometimes it feels like people make me feel like nothing more than a piece of trash—picked up, used, and tossed aside without a second thought.

And that’s the dangerous part. Because once that voice settles in, it starts to erode everything: your confidence, your joy, your willingness to trust, your sense of worth. It makes you want to withdraw completely—stop trying, stop reaching out, stop caring.

But here’s what I’m learning—slowly, painfully, but truthfully:

Your worth doesn’t disappear just because people don’t see it.

Your value isn’t based on how often someone texts back, invites you, or thanks you.

You are not disposable.
You are not invisible.
You are not defined by their silence or absence.

Sometimes, the loudest pain we carry is the result of other people’s emotional immaturity—not our inadequacy. Sometimes we pour into cups that were never meant to hold us. And sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is stop shrinking ourselves just to be noticed by people who were never capable of seeing us clearly.

So if you're in that place today—feeling invisible, ghosted, overlooked—I see you. I feel it with you. And I want to remind you: you're not alone. Your presence is powerful, even if others pretend not to notice. Your heart is worthy, even if it's been taken for granted.

Don’t stop showing up for the people who truly matter—starting with yourself.

Take a breath.
Take a break.
But don’t stop being you.

Even if it feels like no one else is looking.