Dr. Nick’s Reflection: Letting Go, Finding Peace, and Embracing Your Worth
Life has a way of teaching us lessons we never signed up for. People come and go, circumstances shift, and sometimes, the ones we thought would always be there fade into the distance. It’s a painful truth, but it’s also a necessary one. Not everyone is meant to stay, and not every door that closes is meant to be reopened.
We often hold onto relationships, friendships, and moments because of the memories they once held. We convince ourselves that if we try a little harder, give a little more, or bend until we break, things will go back to the way they used to be. But clinging to something that no longer serves us only brings heartache. If someone forgets you, don’t chase after them. If a situation has ended, let it hurt, let it heal, and then let it go. Growth happens in the space between holding on and moving forward.
Forcing our presence in someone’s life will never create a genuine connection. If you have to beg for a place in their world, it was never truly yours to begin with. Love, respect, and care should be freely given, not demanded. And if someone chooses to leave, let them. If they come back, remember how they left—sometimes closure isn’t about getting an explanation, but about recognizing the lesson.
Words can be deceiving, but actions speak louder than anything else. People may lie, make promises they never intend to keep, or tell you what you want to hear. But watch what they do, not what they say. Actions will always reveal the truth. Someone who truly values you will never make you question your place in their life.
Everything in life happens for a reason, even if we don’t understand it in the moment. The hardest moments often lead to the greatest clarity. Pain, as unbearable as it may seem, has a purpose. It teaches us, shapes us, and reminds us of our own resilience. If you find yourself wondering why things happened the way they did, trust that the universe, God, or whatever force you believe in is guiding you to something better.
And above all, choose peace over revenge. Bitterness and anger will only weigh you down, while forgiveness—whether for others or for yourself—will set you free. Choosing peace doesn’t mean allowing others to mistreat you. It doesn’t mean forgetting what was done. It means refusing to let that pain control your heart, your mind, and your future.
Your value does not decrease because someone failed to see it. You are enough, just as you are. You are worthy of love that doesn’t require proving, of friendships that don’t require begging, and of happiness that isn’t dependent on someone else’s approval.
Let go of what weighs you down, move forward with an open heart, and embrace the life that’s waiting for you.
Take care of yourself, and be kind to others.
